The fourth stage is depression, which is, could be the most dangerous stage of grief. It is a fact that not one will escape depression before one can heal from a major loss. Depression may take willing oneself to death if one does not get over the depression stage of grief. The big reality exists that the closer the attachment, the deeper and longer the depression will be for one to undergo.
As a requirement for natural healing one must be, respect to undergo the same but for some uncontrolled situation this really be dangerous. It is therefore normally advised by experts that unless there is a suicide threat or the people under depression are about to lose their job, house, or something very important, it’s better to let the grieving person work through their depression. It is at this stage that all of life seems meaningless and pointless but eventually when one may start to see some joyful things.
When a person starts to realize the dead loved one will not be there, in a physical sense, for the rest of his or her life, that person may start choosing to live happily anyway not the loved one is gone, but happy despite loved one’s absence and that the loved ones may really have wanted things as they turned out. Passing this stage will bring to the final stage (EHP, n. d. 2). The final stage is acceptance, which is a decision to be at peace with the way things are. One can see that the other stages are not enough to start the emotional healing.
Denial, bargaining, anger or depression could not recover one’s loss completely. One must begin to accept that loss is part of life which neither good nor bad. Decision must be to go on, and if one has found joy in life and has brought joy to the lives of others, acceptance must have set in. (EHP, n. d. 2) Tulsky, (2001) mentioned Cicely Saunders’ critique of modern medicine’s inadequate attention to the needs of dying patients, where the latter argued that he advances in biomedical technology to sustain life had outpaced medicine’s ethical understanding and clinical care of patients at the end of life.
In this context clinicians such as Kubler-Ross, in addition, social scientists like Glaser and Strauss published rich qualitative descriptions of inductively derived theories of death and dying. (Tulsky, 2001) Recent theories calculate a dying person’s progress by resolution of particular emotions versus association through changes in emotion. It thus here where Buckman recently projected a three-stage model based on the path of dying: One is facing the threat, followed by being ill and then acceptance.
Buckman’s model puts forward a range of emotions possible within each stage and it has clear improvements over the Kubler-Ross stage theory, yet the model still espouses a mechanistic, purely psychological approach (Tulsky, 2001). Glaser and Strauss, on the other hand, developed more fluid, process-oriented conceptualizations of the end of life, in response to concerns surrounding a “single common pathway”.
The authors also became participant observers under a setting where they described four “contexts of awareness” surrounding the dying experience” This experience include closed awareness, suspicion awareness, mutual pretense awareness, and open awareness (Tulsky, 2001). Still a more recent theory came about, which Copp’s readiness-to-die theory. The model focuses on the active nature of the nurse-dying patient relationship, termed “encountering,” and the dying person’s state of physical deterioration and personal acceptance of death.
Workable under the theory’s four modes, Tulsky (2001) described these modes to include “person ready/body not ready; person ready/body ready; person not ready/body ready; and person not ready/body not ready, are hypothesized to determine, in part, the trajectory and quality of dying. ” (Tulsky, 2001) The models of grief and bereavement are all developed and derived from the Western society because there is basis to say that civilization started from the west.
The people of the Western Society went first to the East than the other way around. This could be proven in the spread of Christianity in the East as carried on by people of the West particularly the Spaniards. As proof of this it could be observed in the funeral in East Asia that the wearing of white which is symbolic of death was modified by practice of Western culture in wearing black and dark-colored which has become acceptable for mourners to wear (Wikipedia, ,2007a).