Models of grief and bereavement

Funeral rituals when viewed from the psychological point of view make use of models of grief and bereavement to explain people behavior and their eventual emotional healing as result of under the experience. Below therefore are discussion of some of the models of grief and bereavement. 1) Elisabeth Kubler-Ross (5 stages of grief) The first group model uses that of Kubler-Ross’ five stages of grief model. As the name suggest, there are five stages and they are follows: First is the denial stage which is the usually the first reaction to the loss of something we are attached to.

Under this stage, people deny the death of a loved one so much that they do allow anyone refers to them as ‘gone’. They will just reveal in their words the loved ones are just sleeping and hence could be a normal mechanism to protect themselves from the sudden turn of events (EHF, n. d. 1). The second stage is anger, which is probably the cause of the most pain from grief as anger can cause deep and sometimes permanent wounds that are unnecessary. Letting go seems to the only solution. One may experience anger in one’s grief and may perceive that someone has injured that person in one way or the other.

This may explain the sudden law suits that even winning with the awards in money, one may still lose the years one would have allowed the anger to consume that person. Letting it go and forgive these people appears to be the only solution that will lead to acceptance, which is the most ideal stage that would complete the grief and start the healing process (EHF, n. d. 1). The third stage is bargaining which as strange as denial. For some they need not pass through this if they have accepted the event. Under this stage, one makes deals to gain back what he or she lost.

It is therefore not surprising to see someone who bargains over a loss in some way, by trying to regain somehow what he or she may have lost as exemplified by replacing untimely the lost partner. Doing this can prevent one from healing from one’s grief and these could lead to both people finding themselves both hurt deeply because the occasion was taken advantage and there was no enough time to allow relationship to grow (EHF, n. d. 1). The fourth stage is depression, which is, could be the most dangerous stage of grief. It is a fact that not one will escape depression before one can heal from a major loss.

Depression may take willing oneself to death if one does not get over the depression stage of grief. The big reality exists that the closer the attachment, the deeper and longer the depression will be for one to undergo. As a requirement for natural healing one must be, respect to undergo the same but for some uncontrolled situation this really be dangerous. It is therefore normally advised by experts that unless there is a suicide threat or the people under depression are about to lose their job, house, or something very important, it’s better to let the grieving person work through their depression.

It is at this stage that all of life seems meaningless and pointless but eventually when one may start to see some joyful things. When a person starts to realize the dead loved one will not be there, in a physical sense, for the rest of his or her life, that person may start choosing to live happily anyway not the loved one is gone, but happy despite loved one’s absence and that the loved ones may really have wanted things as they turned out. Passing this stage will bring to the final stage (EHP, n. d. 2).

The final stage is acceptance, which is a decision to be at peace with the way things are. One can see that the other stages are not enough to start the emotional healing. Denial, bargaining, anger or depression could not recover one’s loss completely. One must begin to accept that loss is part of life which neither good nor bad. Decision must be to go on, and if one has found joy in life and has brought joy to the lives of others, acceptance must have set in. (EHP, n. d. 2)